Derek

Derek has been in poly relationships for over 20 years and has been help support and build the local Tulsa poly community for 10 years. A recovering academic, he sometimes lets his creative side out but in very controlled and structured ways :)

Joined: April 12, 2023
Articles: 59

Communication

Beyond Vanilla: Creating a Kink-Positive Culture Within Polyamory

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Beyond Vanilla: Creating a Kink-Positive Culture Within Polyamory We believe in creating a kink-positive culture within the world of polyamory. Imagine a scenario where a couple explores their shared interests in BDSM, while also navigating the complexities of multiple relationships.…

Derek
October 22, 2023

Relationships

Satisfying Your Kinky Side Ethically: A Look at Polyamory and BDSM

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Explore the world of ethical pleasure! Discover the thrilling dynamics of polyamory and BDSM, and indulge your kinky side responsibly. Click now for a mind-opening read!

Derek
October 21, 2023

Communication

Power of Consent in Polyamory: A Journey into Ethical Non-Monogamy

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Without consent, polyamory can quickly become coercive and manipulative. Let's talk about how to get and give consent in polyamorous relationships.

Derek
July 4, 2023

Relationships

Unlocking the Secrets of Open Marriages: A Journey into the Unknown

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Discover the truth about open marriages and how they work. Explore the pros, cons, and everything in between. Click to read now!

Derek
July 4, 2023

Jealousy

Exploring the Intricacies of Jealousy and Envy in Polyamory

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We often use these two words interchangeably, but there are important distinctions between jealousy and envy.

Derek
July 4, 2023

Polyamory 101

What Is Garden Party Polyamory (Aka Parallel Polyamory)?

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Discover the exciting world of Garden Party Polyamory and explore what it means to practice Parallel Polyamory.

Derek
May 12, 2023

Polyamory 101

5 Common Myths About Polyamory

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Discover the Truth: 5 Myths About Polyamory That Need to be Debunked. Learn Why There's More to This Lifestyle Than Meets the Eye.

Derek
May 12, 2023

Polyamory 101

Balancing Time And Attention In Polyamorous Relationships

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Discover how to balance time and attention in polyamorous relationships. Learn how to make it work for everyone involved.

Derek
May 11, 2023

Self-care

How Poly Relationships Can Inspire Personal Growth

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Discover how polyamorous relationships can lead to transformative personal growth. Explore the benefits of non-monogamy and expand your perspective.

Derek
May 11, 2023

Polyamory 101

What Is Kitchen Table Polyamory – ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy)

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Discover the world of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) with Kitchen Table Polyamory. Explore its principles, practices and benefits in this insightful article.

Derek
May 10, 2023