Derek

Derek has been in poly relationships for over 20 years and has been help support and build the local Tulsa poly community for 10 years. A recovering academic, he sometimes lets his creative side out but in very controlled and structured ways :)

Joined: April 12, 2023
Articles: 59

Relationships

What Is A Poly V Relationship?

A Poly V Relationship represented as a modern cityscape, with the three individuals standing on a rooftop, overlooking the bustling streets below, holding hands and looking towards the future with hope and excitement, Photography, with a telephoto lens zooming into the trio

Discover the dynamic world of polyamorous relationships and explore what it means to be in a Poly V relationship.

Derek
May 10, 2023

Relationships

My Boyfriend Wants An Open Relationship

A woman standing in front of a large window, looking out at the city skyline, while her boyfriend sits on the bed, looking sad and contemplative, modern high-rise apartment with sleek furnishings, introspective atmosphere, Watercolor painting, with soft, muted tones

Curious about open relationships? Discover what happens when one partner wants to explore non-monogamous options in this revealing article.

Derek
May 9, 2023

Sexuality

Polyamory and STIs: Staying Safe in Non-Monogamous Relationships

A romantic and dreamy scene of polyamorous relationships, featuring a trio in a candlelit bedroom, with soft blankets and pillows, and a focus on their intertwined bodies, tattoos, and lingerie, Painting, with acrylics and a large canvas, emphasizing the warmth and sensuality of the scene

Polyamory and STIs can be a tricky combination. Here's what you need to know about staying safe in non-monogamous relationships.

Derek
May 3, 2023

Communication

Communicate! (or How To Prevent Cheating In Polyamory)

an image of three hands intertwined, each with a different color representing different partners, with a beam of light shining down on them

Learn how to prevent cheating in polyamorous relationships with effective communication strategies. Avoid drama and build trust.

Derek
April 30, 2023

Self-care

The Importance Of Self-Care In Polyamorous Relationships

Create an image of a person sitting in a peaceful garden, surrounded by plants and flowers, meditating or practicing yoga, with two or more partners resting nearby, all smiling and content

We often focus on the importance of communication and negotiation in polyamorous relationships, but self-care is just as important! Here's why…

Derek
April 30, 2023

Mono-Poly

Building Trust in a Mono-Poly Relationship

Create an image of a person holding hands with multiple partners while standing on a tightrope, symbolizing the balancing act and trust required in a polyamorous relationship in a monogamous world.

Much is said about the need for trust in a good relationship. But what if you're in a relationship with one person - who is in a relationship other people?

Derek
April 29, 2023

Mono-Poly

Understanding Mono-Poly Relationships

Create an image that portrays the dynamic of a mono-poly relationship, using contrasting colors and shapes to represent the different perspectives and emotions involved

Explore the dynamics of mono-poly relationships and learn how to navigate them successfully. Discover the secrets to a happy partnership today.

Derek
April 29, 2023

Jealousy

Handling Jealousy In A New Polyamorous Relationship

two hands holding a delicate flower with thorns. One hand is gently cradling the flower while the other hand is carefully avoiding the thorns, symbolizing the delicate balance of handling jealousy in a new polyamorous relationship

Jealousy is a normal emotion to feel in any relationship. However, jealousy can become amplified and even destructive in a polyamorous relationship if it's not addressed.